Alexandra Asirvadam, MA, Reiki Master
Alexandra has a Master’s Degree in Professional Counseling and has been working with adults and children in the mental health field since 2007. She has always believed in a close connection of body, mind and spirit. She has educated herself in extensive self-study about spirituality and alternative healing approaches from a very young age and gone through numerous trainings in order to find her niche. Her life experiences have made her a believable counselor her clients have been able to relate to. She has been practicing Reiki since 2000, EFT and Pranic Healing since 2003, and REMAP since 2007. She has been a Reiki Master since 2007.
Always searching for a way to go forward, Alexandra’s decision to go back to school in 2005 was based on her calling to help others emotionally, mentally and spiritually in a way that was professional, educated and ethical. The whole time, her goal has been to combine conventional and unconventional healing approaches. A combination of life coaching, EFT, REMAP, Reiki and/or Pranic Healing allows her to address the issues at hand on a mental, emotional, physical and spiritual level. Working on all these levels is essential because physical pain is often a result of emotional pain, and dysfunctional thought processes prevent individuals from emotional healing. Alexandra wants to help others to free themselves from their learned ways that are not working for them anymore and to move forward towards joy, happiness and fulfillment.
Alexandra is from Austria, Europe, and has lived and studied there and in the UK before moving to the US. She is married to an Asian Indian who grew up in Africa. They both have lived in Ireland, Slovenia and the US. She has been to 20 countries and experienced many different cultures, mentalities, beliefs, religions, and behaviors. She has two sons and a daughter. Besides her life coaching and energy work business, she works as a professional counselor, focusing especially on treatment of trauma and the effects of trauma on individuals’ lives, such as depression, addiction and other self-defeating behaviors.
My new ideas usually hit me right at my kitchen sink, which is an interesting thing considering that washing up is not really one of my favorite things to do. I have been able to let go of stress and resentment there too. Not that I planned to, but it happened. At my kitchen sink I learned that you can never plan anything in detail because you never know exactly what is coming your way, but be ready to deal with it.
So when I had the idea of helping traumatized and abused children to get back to having joyful lives, guess where I was? Exactly, at the same kitchen sink. I had already been doing Reiki, EFT and Pranic Healing at that time, but had the sense that these would not get me to work with kids who are hurting. At the same time, I had been telling myself that I would definitely never ever go back to school, having completed two Master’s degrees already. In the meantime I learned to never say never and be open for unanticipated change.
Change is difficult, change is scary. This makes the decision-making process really difficult at times. It is funny, however, how our subconscious, our Higher Power, our angels, our guides, our intuition keep showing us the way to go, but sometimes we just do not listen. When I did not listen and stated to myself over and over: “I am not going back to school ever again”, I was kicked in my back so hard by whatever tried to tell me that I needed to do it anyway that I ended up needing back surgery – or this is my analogy. An old injury suddenly flared up so bad that I could not walk upstairs anymore, get on my toes or move comfortably – if at all - due to horrendous pain. It seemed that I could not continue in my old ways because they would not get me forward where I needed to go, and my body told me that very clearly. I gradually lost more and more body functions until another repetitive self-statement: “I will never ever have back surgery” became a lie right then and there. And there I was, getting an emergency surgery; or actually two emergency surgeries in two weeks.
I barely made it off the operating table when I enrolled in my counseling course, which made my first repetitive self-statement a lie, too. It is amazing how much strength I managed to find in myself to make it through the first year after surgery AND the first year of my graduate program. It was a stressful and scary experience, but today I am walking. I actually went mountain climbing this year, and how grateful I am for all the things I can do. And the things I cannot do anymore the way I used to… what does that matter now? My lesson here: Appreciate what you have, be grateful, enjoy today, that’s all we have.
By the way: Affirmations do not work in the negative. By telling myself what I definitely and surely did not want, I got exactly that. I have learned by now to ask specifically for what I do want.
